Another drawback to being single, you can't have afternoon delight on the spot. In the words of Florida Evans 'Damn, damn, damn!'

Why don't husbands freak their wives??????

Question. Since men love sex and are consumed with it, wouldn't it go without saying that he would want to tryout all the tricks in his arsenal and any new ones on the the woman he chooses to spend the rest of his life with. That would be a NO! Now, don't get me wrong. If the wife come out of the bag with something, he will be happy to oblige her (unless its so kinky, that it makes him start asking probing questions about her past). But when was the last time a husband called his wife and firmly said "When I get home I'm going to bend you over the kitchen counter and screw your brains out. Have your panties off when I get there." I know men are thinking my wife doesn't like that kind of stuff, she's a nice girl (and she probably is), but what men fail to realize is that women (marriage material women) are saving their inner freak for the one that they love. In the same way that your side chick/jump off likes you to talk dirty to her and come by every once in a while for an extended 'grown folk' session, YOUR WIFE DOES TOO!!!!! So although she may not have done that type of thing before, don't be fooled into thinking she wouldn't be very receptive to the idea. Don't get me wrong, sometimes you do want to make slow passionate love to your spouse. But sometimes you want to be treated like your man's desired whore that he can't wait to devour. Its the equivalent of restaurants, in the sense that you don't want to eat at a 4 star restaurant every night, sometimes you want casual dining or even fast food from the drive thru.

Before you decide this is just a horny wives rant, think about this... What women do you know that has an attitude when she is being well screwed? Don't rack your brain thinking about, because there isn't one. You talk about a man getting respect around the house when he is freaking his wife. You're getting all your favorite meals, no nagging to be heard of, etc. Everything just seems a little more relaxed when wifey is properly sexed up.

Now, the thing for men to remember before you go and try this is timing and preparation. Don't give her the aforementioned call when you know that the kids are all sick and she has a major project due at work the next day. What this requires is paying attention to your wife's day to day occurrences and gauging her mood. It can't be done on a sporadic basis, because you wont get the response you want and you will think its because she doesn't want to do it, when its actually just a bad day. Try calling her mid-day(lunch time) with a 'I was just thinking about you and I wanted to hear your voice. How is your day going?' This will let you know what she has planned for the rest of the day and if she might be in the mood for a little freakin'. But don't let the cat out of the bag, by asking her if she wants to screw or she feels horny? Just be cool. [Note:Now if you just do this out of the blue and you've never called her on your lunch break before, then you will probably have to do this a few days in a row to build her confidence that you are genuinely concerned and not trying to get something.] In fact, keep the mindset that you are trying to do something for her. It will of course benefit you as well, but you can't focus on that initially, because you will lose your cool and become anxious. If she seems like she is having a good day then consider your childcare situation. If you can't come straight in the door from work putting it down, then you may have to adjust your time to something more conducive to your schedule. Like asking her to meet you so you can eat her for lunch or ask her to leave work early and meet you at the house before its time to pick up the kids.

Caveats: Bear in mind that if you start doing this, you can't stop. She will crave it and will be very unhappy if you stop. But trust and believe you will have a marriage that is the envy of your friends and family. I'm talking 'Will & Jada', ALL GOOD ALL THE TIME. Try it and see exactly what results you get.

The cuteboy got a walk to first base, due to the kindness of my heart and the horniness of my body.

The cuteboy is at his final at bat. The first pitch has been thrown. Strike 1!

Why does every accomplishment seem trivial when there is no one to share it with?

Love and life are not for the faint of heart. I said goodbye to the cute dude. What's sad is, he doesn't even care.

In the Chi feeling like I have been missing a little piece of home.

In Maslow's hierarchy of needs, the need for love comes before the need for esteem.....Interesting. I guess Sade was right and love is stronger than pride.

Hard for a pimp such as myself to admit, but the cute dude has me sprung. What to do, what to do???

The Real Me/Control Freak

Long time no write. But not for lack of eventfulness. Although a lot has happened, my journey has been pretty stagnant. Suffice it to say, the cute dude is still an issue along with the both BDs. But what I have come to terms with is the sheer complexity of who I am as a person. This realization of who I am and what exactly I require to live my best life is something that is even surprising to me right now. I consider myself to be pretty intelligent and a bit of a planner (those that know me will laugh hilariously at the bit part) and it has taken me roughly 34 years to realize that for all my planning and extensive thought processes, I can only control what I will do. This is unfortunate, because life would be so much better for all involved parties if they would simply follow the plans that I devise. Why must people be soooooo difficult????? Don't start, its a rhetorical question. I guess the real question becomes when will I be able to relax, relate, release. And sadly, I can't even pretend its on the horizon, because I can't even fathom how to begin the process of just letting things occur naturally. I want to be in full control all the time. But I guess people in hell want ice water. Next step - devise a plan to stop planning and overthinking. Hey, I have to take baby steps.